Feminism

#FeminismFriday 4/10.) “But a Man Can’t Be a Feminist!”

ff4Anyone can be a feminist. Anyone can be a feminist.

I’ll type that again. Anyone can be a feminist. This includes men.

Men are just as much a part of equality as women. Men are also victims of the patriarchy. The patriarchy tells them that they must be “macho” and “manly” and “to grow a pair” and “man up.” The patriarchy tells men that they can’t show emotion. The patriarchy tells men that they can’t be raped. The patriarchy that tells women they are the primary nurturer in their family is the same patriarchy that tells men they must provide for their family in the form of money, shelter, and food while being the epitome of strength. The patriarchy that says women are more nurturing is the same patriarchy that tells men in court that they cannot have full custody of their child, even if the mother is secretly abusing the child.

This kind of thinking embeds itself into society, and men must hide their emotions to benefit from the patriarchy.

Men get raped. Men get sexually abused. Men get shorted in custody hearings.

Feminism not only stands for women, but for men and people of all sexualities and gender expressions.

One argument against feminism is that it doesn’t represent men. This is false. Feminism works to fight against the patriarchy, which hurts literally everyone in a society, in different ways. The patriarchy tells society that men are strong of mind and will, yet unable to care for their family in the way a stereotypical mother figure can.

As stated many times already, anyone can be a feminist – including men, including the religious, including the teenagers who are not old enough to vote yet. Yes – whoever you are, you can be a feminist.

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6 thoughts on “#FeminismFriday 4/10.) “But a Man Can’t Be a Feminist!”

  1. “The patriarchy that says women are more nurturing is the same patriarchy that tells men in court that they cannot have full custody of their child, even if the mother is secretly abusing the child.

    Funny how MRA talking points are present in a post that is about feminism.

    Myth #1: Men are discriminated against by law courts, especially with regards to being granted custody of children

    This statement is incorrect, and becomes clear if one looks at the situation a little more closely. Sticking specifically with the child custody example, it is indeed true that the mother is usually granted custody. What usually is not mentioned, however, is the fact that the majority of custody disputes (over three-quarters of them, in fact) are settled out of court. In other words, in most cases both parents agree that the mother should be the one who looks after the children. This makes it obvious that women receiving custody is not evidence of ‘male oppression’ at all – it is, instead, evidence that both parents agree that this is what is best for their children (which is linked to the mother being seen as the ‘natural’ caregiver by society). When the father actively fights for custody, he is granted it roughly 70% of the time (which sadly remains true even when the father is abusive). So mothers aren’t really favoured in courts at all – when the father doesn’t have custody, it’s usually (though admittedly, not always) because he doesn’t want it.

    “One argument against feminism is that it doesn’t represent men.

    Feminism is the the struggle to liberate women from the oppressive facets of society. So, no, feminism doesn’t represent men, nor should it.

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    1. Hello; thank you for the clarification. However, this might be different between Canadian and United States courts. I specifically used MRA talking points to point out that the issues MRAs stand for are usually parallel to those of feminism – MRAs just tend to blame feminism for these problems instead of the patriarchy. Different women have different definitions of feminism. Mine is inclusive of everyone – including men and trans men. The oppressive facets of society are brought on by the patriarchy, which affect men as well. For example, I love what Emma Watson is doing with the HeForShe movement. It is perfectly okay if you do not agree. Thank you for reading and commenting, and have a good afternoon.

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